There are a few reasons why I'm reluctant to fully engage with you. But it's not "boo boo" words per se, and certainly nothing so purely vain as mere "optics". My reasons are more pragmatic.

Consider first, that none of us are forced to be here on Medium. Which means we are all here because we want to be, and because we want to get something out of it. Different people will be looking for different things here, but probably nobody is here to read someone else's speculations / projections about why they are here.

And that's what much of your commentary amounts to. You're trying to explain my motivations to me. And that is, frankly, not useful to me. You don't know me, and I don't know you, so it's an exercise in futility for us to tell us why the other is here. And so if you insist on doing that to me, it doesn't make me want to interact with you. It's simply not worth my time, and wouldn't be worth your time if I did it to you.

So that's the first reason.

The second reason is that many of your comments are actually quite vague, and not nearly as clear as you probably think they are to someone who isn't you. For instance, one of your first comments said that "Sentient desire = more than just material consumption" - but you don't explain what you actually think sentient desire is, or exactly what you mean by "material consumption", or what about my article makes you think I think they are equivalent.

Your comments read more like footnotes to yourself, or like poetry. They hint at an idea, but they require me to bring a lot of my own assumptions and guesswork to any response I might try to provide. The good thing about poetry or notes for yourself is that you can say more with less. But the bad thing about them is that it is less clear what you are actually saying. And when you are engaging in a complicated dialogue with someone, you really have to be more explicit with your meaning. Otherwise, you'll just end up talking past each other.

I don't want to engage in a discussion with someone if we will just be talking past each other. But your style of commenting thus far makes that outcome very hard to avoid. The level of vagueness in your comments puts a ton of burden on me to ask clarifying questions. And it's hard for me to consider that a good use of my time.

So that's the second reason.

The third reason is kind of a combination of the first two.

A good conversation requires two individuals who are both willing to make it a good conversation. When you project motivations onto me, and call me names, it sends a message that you are not willing to do your part. It doesn't give me confidence that you will truly engage with my responses. If you, as a show of good faith, stopped telling me what you think my motivations are, and discontinued the ad hominem attacks, it would give me more wiggle room to believe that you actually want a conversation. But as it is, I am forced to largely regard you as a troll, and am thus more hesitant to respond to you fully.

That's the third reason.

So in a nutshell:

1. Recognize where your comments are more vague than you realize, and try to clarify. Note that this may also require you to limit the scope of what you're trying to say in any single comment.

2. Stick to the facts and the arguments. Avoid name-calling and speculation about my motives, as they mark you as likely not being an earnest conversation partner.

Learn to follow those guidelines, and it will serve you well in this conversation here, or when talking with anyone about anything.