I'll start by saying that I agree that the commenter you quoted had a silly and illogical argument.

But I think you actually mischaracterized your commenter's remarks, and further distorted it with a bit of logical slight of hand.

The commenter's quote never denigrated household work - never said it was any less noble than the "elsewhere" work. That was a flourish you added yourself, when you referred to "domesticity and small things". But for all we know, the commenter thinks they are both equally noble.

And then you took it a step further, and painted the "elsewhere" work as basically devoid of responsibility compared to the more "mature" work at home. And you then implied that that was actually the commenter's opinion - not your own. But that's not what they said. And it doesn't work like that. You can't just foist opinions on people when it's not what they said. Not because it's mean, but simply because it's illogical.

But there is a remedy. You don't need to mischaracterize the commenter's remarks in order to prove them illogical.

Because the real mistake that the commenter made - which I think is actually the biggest issue underlying MOST of these conversations - is an unacknowledged belief in some sort of imaginary mysticism or magic.

When people assume an inherent destiny of either men or women, as your commenter did, they're ultimately exposing a belief in a myth - a figment of people's imagination. Because a man's supposed "calling" is just a story. It's made up.

And that's where the commenter got it wrong. Not because they are secretly both a misogynist and a misandryst, as you assert. But rather, simply because they are ultimately expressing a belief in magic.