I think we tend to underestimate how hard it can be for a person to troubleshoot what they're doing wrong in relationships if they've never had even one successful one to draw upon.

Everybody muddles through their sex life a bit, but most of us eventually get enough opportunities (i.e. interested partners) that we at some point learn to navigate the dating scene with at least some success.

But I think what happens with incels is that their chances are too few and far between for them to even learn how to improve. So they start grasping at straws for what's wrong. And when they all get together, it's the blind leading the blind. None of the people in the conversation have enough perspective, and they land on strange theories like the unacceptable wrist circumferences (and worse).

To your point: once a man "takes the red pill", they probably worsen their prospects a lot. But they almost certainly had a lot of trouble finding women long before they became radicalized. So I think the idea that their problem is simply "their personalities" is ultimately pretty dismissive.

I think it's important that we have articles like this, in order to raise awareness. But I'm pretty disappointed with most of the reactions I see in the other comments, which mostly see these people as demons and terrorists.

I agree that there's a lot to be scared of here. But I also think these people are creations of our society at large, so if we are serious about addressing the threat, the correct way to end this piece - rather than with a warning - is with a question, namely: "What are we doing wrong that we keep creating such damaged men?".